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Cultivating Healthy Communication in Relationships

4/28/2020

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Learn how to cultivate healthy communication in relationships with these proven methods:

Empathetic people have two things in common: they feel everything, and they need to be understood. Here’s how you can cultivate healthy communication in relationships.

If you avoid speaking up for yourself in relationships when it’s clear that the person who needs to hear what you have to say, doesn’t get you, the relationship will not survive. Being seen and heard are both universal needs that most humans crave.
Highly empathetic people find themselves on the injured list time and time again. They struggle with how to communicate best what they need. They have difficulty sharing their feelings. They get attacked for speaking up for themselves. 
The relationships, those who are empathetic find themselves in, seem to be with people who have limited capacity to empathize. Highly empathetic people’s primary strength is their ability to view the world through the eyes of those they are in relationships with. Unfortunately, when they decide to verbalize what they feel, they are frequently misunderstood.
Highly empathetic people strive to find better ways to express themselves without causing confusion or harm to the receiver. However, they become frustrated with how others respond to them, so they avoid hard conversations and usually shut down. 
So, what needs to happen to cultivate healthy communication in relationships? Developing healthy communication in relationships requires simple steps in how to use courage to push past fear and get what you value on the other side, and that’s a healthy and long-lasting relationship.

What does having a healthy communication mindset in a
relationship look like?
Highly empathetic people with a healthy communication style tend to listen more than they speak. They resist the urge to unsolicited advice. They also try imagining what the other person may be experiencing, feeling and needing. They give up the right to tell people what they think and believe.
Another method highly empathetic people use in improving communication in the relationships, is assessing the situation. They take steps to understand what they may be feeling and needing and then decide how they are impacting the relationship. 
Next, highly empathetic people determine the best way to meet their own needs. Often times empathetic people tend to want their needs met by the person they are in relationships with, and this can backfire. Why? Because the person they are communicating with has no ability to meet the need. No one is responsible for meeting our needs. We have the ability to meet our own needs.
Wounded empaths believe that it’s better to avoid difficult conversations and shut down. “Why should I even try?” “They don’t have to worry about me saying anything to them again.” “As a matter of fact, I will just block them from ever being able to contact me again.” This pattern of thinking grows and repeats the cycle in future relationships. 
Wounded empaths will also cultivate a critical and judgmental spirit that does not serve them. Having this type of spirit emits negative energy and only attracts people who will further cause harm.
Having healthy communication in a relationship mindset will improve all kinds of relationships, attract more positive energy, and create long-lasting connections. 
How do I develop a 
Healthy communication in a relationship mindset?
  1. Be open to new ideas – Sometimes we are stuck in how we solve problems. Allow yourself to receive different communication styles that, when utilized, can improve the relationship.
  2. Practice what you learn – The old saying “practice makes perfect” is correct. We get better when we take what we learn and practice consistently and frequently.
  3. Make adjustments – There may be times when you may need to make slight changes in your delivery and approach when communicating. That’s ok. Allow for hiccups.
  4. Be patient – Respect the process and utilize positive self talk. When learning something new, you may not be great at it every single time. Encourage yourself and keep trying.
  5. Never give up – Always move forward. The only failure is when you stop moving forward. This is a journey. No one reaches perfection. As long as you are living, you are going to come in contact with people that will test you. That’s what builds character.

Want to develop healthy communication in a relationship mindset? 
CLICK HERE to find out how to make this happen.



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    Akiami is a licensed clinical social worker, author, speaker, private practice owner and creator of The UnHacked Mind signature trainings and workshops. She currently resides in Atlanta, GA where she sees clients virtually in both Maryland and Atlanta.

Email: akiami@unhackedmind.com

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